{"id":81,"date":"2015-04-03T16:13:49","date_gmt":"2015-04-03T16:13:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/?p=81"},"modified":"2015-04-03T16:19:03","modified_gmt":"2015-04-03T16:19:03","slug":"are-you-fed-up-yet-the-value-in-discontent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/?p=81","title":{"rendered":"ARE YOU FED UP YET? THE VALUE IN DISCONTENT"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em><strong>\u00a0We all run from negative emotions, but they can provide just the wake up call we need&#8230;<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter  wp-image-15\" src=\"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up.jpg\" alt=\"are you fed up\" width=\"566\" height=\"566\" srcset=\"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up.jpg 768w, https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up-100x100.jpg 100w, https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up-600x600.jpg 600w, https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/are-you-fed-up-150x150.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 566px) 100vw, 566px\" \/><\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Are you enjoying your life the way it is right now? Or is there a nagging feeling that <em>\u201cthere\u2019s got to be more than this\u201d<\/em>?\u00a0 Today we will explore the two extremes of frustration verses contentment, and how each can help you get what you want out of life.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Are you happy with where you are in your life today? If you had to rate your life on a scale of one to ten, what number would you choose? What would you do differently? What do you want that you haven\u2019t yet attained? What problems need to be addressed sooner rather than later?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Are you fed up yet?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Life is like a roller coaster, with highs and lows. But our perspective is what really matters.\u00a0Is your glass half full or half empty?\u00a0 And if you are really discontent with things, what are you going to do about it? No really\u2026 are you ready to put a stake in the ground and make a change ? Or will you let days and weeks pass without taking the steps necessary to get what you want out of life?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we can be upset about things but not uncomfortable enough to change. When the pain of keeping things the same is greater than the work required to change things\u2026 or when we get FED UP, then we become motivated to do something different. But why wait until you\u2019re miserable to improve things? Here is how you can use discontentment to your favor.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Choose contentment.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You can CHOOSE to be content with your life. It seems elusive, but it really is all about a shift in mindset.\u00a0Paul found a way to be content and find value in his life, even from a prison cell.\u00a0 Are things that bad for you? Probably not. We all have problems, but we all have blessings too. Here are two keys to choosing contentment:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Focus on the good.\u00a0<\/span>What\u2019s good in your life? What makes you happy? Who are the people who make a big difference in your life? Count your blessings.\u00a0\u00a0As we all know, things could be much worse.\u00a0\u00a0If you haven\u2019t done so before, consider keeping a gratitude journal.\u00a0\u00a0Each day write down 3-5 things you are grateful for.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Don\u2019t be a victim.<\/span>\u00a0Victim mentality is debilitating.\u00a0\u00a0If you identify with being a victim, you are choosing to give up your power.\u00a0\u00a0Are you in a bad relationship? Choose today to either invest in making it better, or walk away. Some choices are harder than others. If you CHOOSE to stay, then you CHOOSE to accept responsibility for your happiness by doing whatever you can to make that relationship succeed.\u00a0\u00a0If it\u2019s already to late, don\u2019t waste another moment of your life telling yourself the lie that you don\u2019t have options, because I\u2019m here to tell you from personal experience, YOU DO.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Choose yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Then act on it. For example, \u00a0are you in a job that you hate? Do you daily go through a litany of what others are doing to make it miserable for you? This is a powerless perspective.\u00a0\u00a0Are you doing everything in your power to make it a good experience? Or have you given up and don\u2019t invest in doing your part? Maybe it\u2019s just time to go. I believe that we spend too much time working to not have it be a good experience.\u00a0\u00a0If you are not happy with your current job and are not actively taking steps to get another one, then you are choosing to remain unhappy. Inaction is a CHOICE not to take action.\u00a0\u00a0Make a choice. Leave or stay.\u00a0Only you know what\u2019s best.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Finally &#8211; trust yourself. Sometimes deciding to seek contentment in a situation that is less than ideal can turn things around. Whatever your choice, own it, and shift your actions to follow suit.\u00a0\u00a0Check in with yourself 30 days later. I\u2019d love to hear how it goes!<\/p>\n<p><strong>ARE YOU READY TO TAKE ACTION?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>So what&#8217;s new for you? What are you creating this year? I&#8217;d love to hear what&#8217;s going on &#8211; it&#8217;s fun to connect beyond these e-communications. On the other hand, if you are struggling with something &#8211; hit me up. As you know I offer a free session, and sometimes that&#8217;s all you need to reset and think about next steps. \u00a0Either way &#8211; please feel free to email me at t&#x72;&#x61;m&#x73;&#x65;y&#x34;&#x33;&#64;&#103;&#x6d;a&#105;&#x6c;.&#99;&#x6f;m<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;We all run from negative emotions, but they can provide just the wake up call we need&hellip; Are you enjoying your life the way it is right now? Or is there a nagging feeling that &ldquo;there&rsquo;s got to be more than this&rdquo;?&nbsp; Today we will explore the two extremes of frustration verses contentment, and how [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7,6,8,9,1],"tags":[15,10,11,17,12,16,13,14],"class_list":["post-81","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-career","category-life-101","category-relationships","category-transformation","category-uncategorized","tag-career-coach-trina-ramsey","tag-discontent","tag-frustration","tag-life-coaching","tag-making-change","tag-self-help","tag-transformation","tag-trina-ramsey"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=81"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":85,"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81\/revisions\/85"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=81"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=81"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mycoachtrina.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=81"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}